“I’d like to punch him in the face.”

If I gave you 20 guesses, I bet you’d never guess it was a presidential candidate who said that in reference to a man (seemingly, a veteran, if his sign was any indication) who was removed from one of his recent rallies.

Of course, I’m talking about the one and only, Donald Trump.


You rarely see a serious picture of The Donald posted anywhere. This should be an indication of how serious his candidacy should be considered.

As much as I don’t want to bring any more attention to this man, I can’t help but finally put all of my thoughts into one cohesive piece. This has been boggling my mind and bothering me for so long now, that it all just has to come out.

In short… he scares me.

I’m sure a lot of you share this sentiment, but there are many, many people who do not. And for the life of me, I do not understand how anyone can look beyond the disturbing words that have come out of his mouth and the lack of actual details related to his campaign and platform.

From the get-go, he has discriminated against large groups of people who make up our beautiful United States.The land of the free. The land of opportunity. The place people of all backgrounds come to build the “American Dream.”

How can we overlook the discrimination he is encouraging? How can we continue to stand by and shrug off the horrible words that come out of this man’s mouth? This man, who said he could stand in the middle of a street and shoot someone and he wouldn’t lose any supporters… was right… because he is still leading the polls.

What does he have to say to prove to his supporters that he is not fit to be our President? How has he shown that he is capable of meeting with leaders of other nations, sitting down and coming to beneficial agreements when he HAS shown that he is unable to handle a person standing up for the groups he has discriminated against during his rallies or handle a personal attack during a debate in a mature fashion? Oh, the double standard!

Sure, he is saying things that many people have been thinking for a long time, but isn’t that part of the problem? He has made it ok for those who have been harboring racist, sexist (and all other -ists) thoughts to come out and openly state their feelings. Is that the direction you want for our country? A country where it’s ok to blatantly discriminate or smear someone?

Being “politically correct” can also be referred to as being respectful of another person or someone else’s beliefs. Just as my mother told me growing up: Just because you think it, doesn’t mean you have to say it. Aside from having the balls to say the extraordinarily obscene things he has said, this GOP front-runner has also never apologized. Part of being a leader is admitting when you are wrong. Being able to admit you made a mistake. He hasn’t shown any sort of self-reflection whatsoever. Instead, he thrives on the reactions of his supporters and any negative media attention. He revels in the fact that he CAN say whatever he wants and people will STILL support him.

Imagine the kind of effect this can have on our country and our relations with other countries! Race relations have already been impacted and there has been a surge in Islamophobia. I have seen more and more stories of discrimination against women for simply wearing hijabs. And if you are unable to see the correlations between Trump’s hate speech and the rise in discrimination, then you are in denial. We need a leader who will unite the American people. One who is going to fight for equality for all people, no matter their race, gender, sexual orientation, religious beliefs, etc. One who wants what’s best for the country rather than his own well being.

In his most recent town hall, Trump said, “I can do whatever I want. Society loves me.” Yes, that is a direct quote. And I am just as appalled now typing it as I was when it came out of his mouth. No, sir, you cannot do whatever you want as President of the United States. And he hasn’t given me nor anyone else any reason to believe he would act otherwise if he were actually elected to office.

This isn’t about party lines and who I support. This is about who is and is not fit to run our country. And I’m sorry, but Trump is FAR from what we need in a leader.

Rainbow sprinkles, please.

“Oh wait, does that mean I’m gay?”

I mean, really? Is that really what you want (some) kids to grow up thinking? That they can’t like anything with all the colors of the rainbow because someone might think they are gay?

  1. Who gives a shit what other people think? Teach your children and those around you to love themselves and believe in who they are. Teach them to have self-esteem and stand up for what they believe in. Do these things rather than teaching what someone should or should not wear to conform to what some people believe to be “normal.”
  2. News Flash: Wearing or liking something in rainbow colors does not mean you’re gay! Just like a girl liking blue “boy” things doesn’t make her a lesbian and a boy liking pink “girly” things doesn’t make him gay.

So, when “Believe in Love” was displayed in bright colors during the Super Bowl half time show, you know what I did not think to myself?

“Oh man, how can they support a homosexual agenda during a football game?!”

Because, well (here comes another list):

  1. The rainbow isn’t ONLY a symbol of the LGBT community, believe it or not.
  2. Knowing the current state of the world, I chose to believe they meant to love everyone. Or that peace and love might help the current issues around the world.
  3. Even if they were supporting a homosexual agenda (or if any of the artists come out saying that was their message), there is absolutely nothing. wrong. with. that.

As stated in my previous post, artists can express whatever opinions they want. Does that mean you have to agree with it? Or that they expect you to conform to their beliefs? Absolutely not. What it MIGHT mean is that they want you to open your eyes. To recognize that there are people who are different than you, who have different beliefs and who might challenge you to look at the world differently.

We live in a world where people have the right to express themselves and it’s a beautiful thing. Let’s not ruin it by finding something wrong with every message, word or image.


What up, Bey?

Beyonce, that is. I’m sure you already know where this is going.

The Super Bowl halftime show. Most likely, a few of you reading this were offended by her performance. Me? I didn’t know I had watched anything other than some sick dance moves (and possibly the most epic halftime show ever) until the media threw “her agenda” in my face yesterday morning.

I hadn’t seen her Formation video, nor had I even heard the song, so when Bey came out dressed in her usual attire with her usual group of back up dancers, I thought nothing other than “I sure wish I could move like that!” So, imagine my surprise when I saw all the articles, reports, blogs, comments, facebook posts, you get the picture, on Monday morning talking about Beyonce’s message in her performance, attire, choice of back up dancers, and newly released music video.

So, I did my research. I read the articles and some opinions about her performance and video. And, ya know what… I wasn’t offended. You know why I wasn’t offended? Because I chose not to be offended. An artist should be able to express him or herself however he or she sees fit. And that’s that.

And even if she did come out in support of Black Lives Matter, I STILL wouldn’t be offended. Because,and now here comes the shocker, I support the BLM message as well (not all of the actions the group takes to bring attention to the movement, however). Believing in a movement that was created to bring awareness to the institutional racism and stereotyping that still exists today is one I will support any day of the week. Because, guess what? Racism DOES still exist. We can’t go around ignoring it and acting like it doesn’t happen. That doesn’t get us anywhere and it is not productive.

Beyonce used her platform to voice an opinion without coming right out and saying it. And she still got people talking. Unfortunately, it seems many people cannot come to terms with the fact that Black Lives Matter does NOT mean that you do not support police or that her performance was not anti-white people. Hello, she finished the concert with her arm around Chris Martin, who, according to Google, seems to be one of her and Jay-Z’s best friends! With “Believe in Love” displayed in MASSIVE letters behind them (more on this later)! Just because she supports her heritage, Black Lives Matter and recognizes Black History Month doesn’t mean anything other than she has pride in who she is and where she comes from.

So please, the next time you see someone make a statement in any performance (or, in this case, read article after article about the statement you completely missed), take a step back and ask, “does this really affect me or my life?” Most likely, the answer will be no.


It’s a scary word. It represents change, but it also represents growth and progress.


I started this blog in 2008 while in college and, apparently, needed more work to do. Looking back, I had absolutely no idea what I wanted to write about and I have no idea why I felt the need to write my random thoughts in a public forum.

In the eight years since (count ’em, EIGHT), I realize I never really found direction. I was given great advice a few years ago that I completely dismissed – “give your blog a theme.” A theme? HA.

But now I understand what he meant. (See that… growth!)

Without a theme, there was nothing for me to focus my posts on, which made it harder to come up with ideas. You’d think it would be the opposite, but without that direction, I often found myself writing about meaningless topics that I didn’t care much about.

Now, at my current stage in life (young professional trying to make her way in the world), I’ve realized I have more to say and have more of a desire to share my opinions with people who may or may not agree with me. I have hopes that something I put out into the universe will have a positive impact on someone or perhaps help someone view the world in a different way. My goal is to start conversation. Intelligent conversation. I have strong opinions, but I very much enjoy hearing what others have to say and why they say them. Don’t agree with me? That’s fine. We don’t have to agree to respect one another.

So, open your minds. Share your opinions. Show passion and intellect. Stick with me and (I hope) you won’t be sorry.


October 14th

Today would have been my dad’s 61st birthday.

It’s true that you never stop grieving the loss of someone you love. The grief becomes easier to deal with, but it’s not something you ever “get over” and it never becomes “okay.” After a while, you’re able to talk about them without crying and you’re able to smile when thinking of all the amazing memories… but there is still always that hurt behind your words. Even after eight years, I still sometimes break down during casual conversation. The smallest thing can remind me of him and at times, it becomes impossible to hold it all in. But it’s getting easier… it’s a day-to-day process. Some days are easier than others, and some days, you wonder how you’ll keep on going. But you do… I do…

It’s been eight and a half years since my dad died, but he is still such a huge part of my life. He’s brought up in conversation almost daily and I find people who remind me of him all the time. Whether it’s a beard or laugh or glasses or mannerisms… I see him in many. I’ve noticed I’m drawn to people like him. On the quiet side, but extremely caring. Or rough around the edges, but a heart of gold. Or humble, but extremely talented. I have friends whose fathers remind me so much of him and it brings me great comfort. Many of them probably don’t even realize it, but it has been wonderful to find those characteristics in them.

I miss him every single day.

So many thoughts on his birthday (this being only a few), but the most important one is that I am so grateful to have had such an amazing father in my life for 19 years…

Happy birthday, Dad! Love you always.

I’m going to share an opinion…

… that some people are not going to agree with. And that’s ok! After all, “we are all different. That’s not a bad thing, that’s a good thing(…).”

That’s right. I’m going to share my opinion of Caitlyn Jenner’s acceptance speech at the ESPYs last night. For those who think they may not want to read the rest of this post because you don’t understand or agree with the subject matter, I really hope you give me a chance.

Caitlyn Jenner deserved her award last night. Does that mean I do not recognize the other people who were deserving of the award as well? Nope. Does that mean I think Caitlyn deserved it more than Lauren Hill? Also, nope. But, I think in this instance, ESPN chose to address a topic so widely debated and in need of attention, by means of one of the best Olympic athletes of our time.

Caitlyn’s speech was moving, raw, honest and full of emotion. She was given a platform to bring awareness to a large group of individuals who face discrimination on a daily basis. And that group, of which she identifies, was at the center of her entire speech. I did not find her speech to be self-centered or about the Kardashian clan; but instead, about support, family, awareness and respect. The key point in her speech for me last night was the following:

“It’s not just about me, it’s about all of us accepting one another. We are all different. That’s not a bad thing, that’s a good thing and while it may not be easy to get past the things you do not understand, I want to prove that it is absolutely possible if we only do it together.”

Acceptance is defined as “the action or process of being received as adequate or suitable.” To think that there are still people in this world who do not feel accepted on a daily basis is heartbreaking. To think that there are also people who will not take a few minutes, a few steps back, to attempt to understand what another individual, another human being, might be going through is saddening. All of us have been through or go through things that other people do not understand. Does that mean we should be incapable of respecting or accepting each other’s differences?

As a heterosexual woman in a five-year relationship, I do not pretend to understand how it feels to identify with the LGBT community, but I am accepting of everyone. What if we look at it this way: a transgender person may not (or does not) understand what it feels like to be me – comfortable and confident with the body I was born into. Will a transgender person ever understand what it’s like to be me? Maybe not. But am I discriminated against by the transgender community because they do not understand me or my situation? Nope.

If more people look at it that way, does it make more sense to be respectful and accepting of what we may not understand?

Courage is defined as “the quality of mind or spirit that enables a person to face difficulty,danger, pain, etc., without fear; bravery.” Caitlyn going through her transition so publicly and taking on the role as an advocate for the transgender community are things that she wasn’t obligated to do, but chose to do. She chose to, potentially, put herself in harm’s way, to speak up for those who are afraid to express themselves for fear of discrimination, to recognize those who were not shown the support they so desperately wanted and took their own lives or were victims of a hate crime, to call for acceptance for ALL individuals no matter how “different” they are. She was brave enough to finally express herself as she has always wanted to in the face of great adversity and to use her experience to try to bring about change.

Now, that IS courage.